Identity
coming out, confidence, boundaries, belonging, fear, shame, inner critic, family & cultural expectations
Is this you?
Curious, not just hurting.
There is a quiet part of your soul that is asking ‘what is going on here?’
Willing to sit with discomfort.
You know that there is no magic bullet and see the value in nurturing sustainable growth.
Ready to step into your essence.
You’re willing to find and work on the parts you have control of.
You’ve tried everything, but you are still stuck.
You’re exhausted, ashamed, fearful, or feeling like a failure. You struggle with identity, belonging, sexuality, intimacy or connection. You may struggle with your limits, boundaries and rights.
Your confidence, energy and hopefulness are deteriorating. You are losing touch with joy, play, adventure and a sense of magic. Perhaps a part of you feels that there is more to love, sex, connection, intimacy and eroticism. That you want to experience more, feel more, live more.
Or you are fearful about allowing yourself to desire, to claim your true identity, lifestyle, relationship(s) you want.
And experiencing all this is making you feel alone, misunderstood, undersupported, and disconnected.
You may be looking to work on the following themes:
Fear & grief
minority stress, performance anxiety, breakups, conscious decoupling, rupture, infidelity, kink gone wrong
Growth & integration
erotic exploration, adventure, fun, play, joy, finding chosen family
Intimacy
chemsex, dopamine chasing, NRE, long term passion, cross-cultural love
You’ve already taken a big step by being here. What you can expect from a 1:1 session with me is a discreet space to shed your masks, reflect on your patterns & be seen.
You are in the steering wheel - my role is not to label you or hand down a rigid blueprint. The goal of our time together will be for you to develop a more grounded, secure relationship with yourself, both through experience in our sessions and things you practice outside (think rituals, tools & exercises). This is the start of a new beginning for you.
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Free
Not sure where to start?
A free 30 min introductory consultation is a good place to start
Session
140 eur 50 min.
Incl. VAT. Paid by bank transfer. Cancellations within 24 hours are charged in full. Cancellation policy. Ask me about discounted rates.
My clients are often:
- Those with discerning tastes who value privacy, attunement and excellence
- Souls who hunger for a life of adventure & intimacy
- Creatives, professionals, entrepreneurs and trailblazers
FAQ
Is this actually a safe place for queers, kink-identifying & non-monogamous people?
Yes. The practice is explicitly affirmative & inclusive of all identities. I myself am queer, kinky, ENM and gender questioning and I bring that lived experience into the work alongside my clinical training.
Do you accept insurance?
No. Regulated mental healthcare (GGZ) is covered by Dutch basic insurance, but only through a huisarts referral, a DSM-5 diagnosis, and often a waitlist of a month or more. Working with me skips all of that: no referral, no diagnosis required, and sessions are paid directly at the time of your appointment. A limited number of sliding-scale spots are available for those experiencing financial hardship, just mention it when you reach out.
I've never done therapy before, is that okay?
Yes no problem. You don’t need a diagnosis, know what you want or have all the answers. The free introductory consultation is there to help us determine together if this feels like the right fit.
Are you a licensed psychologist?
Not in the Dutch legal sense of "gezondheidszorgpsycholoog" which is a title protected under Wet BIG for professionals registered in the Dutch BIG-register. I have a license in Finland which does not transfer. I am currently in training for the international IOSS sexologist diploma. These are separate from, and do not constitute, BIG registration as a "GZ-psycholoog" and this work is not a substitute for regulated mental healthcare (GGZ) when that's what's needed. If you're unsure what's right for you, this is a good first question to raise together.